In my work I do my best to create the best possible outcome for my clients. This includes:
‣ Working to enhance your agency and independence.
‣ Honoring your privacy.
‣ Respecting your choices.
‣ Communicating my boundaries.
I encourage you to:
‣ Trust your gut as to what you do or do not need from me or another healer.
‣ Avoid diviners, healers, shamans, and others who introduce drama, urgency, and huge stories into the relationship.
‣ Do not put me on a pedestal -- See me and other healers as neither more nor less capable or worthy of love and happiness than yourself.
‣ Communicate with courage.
‣ Look for patience, compassion, composure, and a certain sense of detachment in a healer.
You have many options for healing; I am simply one of them. I avoid pressuring people; it's antithetical to what I am up to here.
You may notice a certain sense of detachment in what I do. The truth is that I do my best and leave the rest up to Spirit and to you. That's how I can sleep at night. I am not your savior, nor the savior of the world. I am simply one of many healers who are now part of the evolution of humanity towards greater wisdom, strength, and responsibility.
When I witness a miracle in my work I do not take credit for it. I appreciate it and give thanks to witness and participate. By the same token, if I witness a seeming failure in my work I do not take credit for it. I know that I have given my best and that what will be will be, according to a greater power. To balance control and abandon is my way.
Once I was sitting on a bench near a Catholic church in downtown Eugene, when a woman wearing a brace on her ankle came and sat next to me. She was out of breath and clearly in pain. We talked for a moment, and then I felt inspired to offer her some free healing for her foot. She accepted my offer and agreed to place her lower leg on my lap. I put my arms around her ankle and allowed a flow of healing energy to pass through me into her for a few silent minutes. When I told her I was done, she moved her leg and remarked upon the pain having disappeared. I smiled at her, happy to hear that the work had helped her. The wonder and happiness on her face quickly shifted to confusion and fear. She looked towards the Church and towards me, clearly wondering about someone who could do these sort of things. She asked me if what I had done was okay, saying something about how she was unsure if the Church would approve. I just smiled and shrugged. It seemed ironic, given what I have heard of Jesus, but I had nothing further to say. She left soon after that, clearly struggling with some inner dialogue. I found that I did not mind whether she changed her beliefs as a result of what had happened that day. I had no stake in it. I had simply followed my inner guidance, and that was enough for me.
I sometimes say no to potential clients, if I feel that I am not the right healer for them (even if the money would have been very helpful!), or if it appears to me that they are not truly asking for healing. The stark reality is that some people are severely attached to their suffering and disease, and if this is too severe I may not be able to do much. Of course, I wish them the best.
For more perspective on these matters, you might wish to view a subpage from the healing work website of a colleague of mine, Vinny Pinto. Vinny is a remarkable mystic, spiritual healer, and spiritual teacher who I have received healing from before. I like the guidance he has offered as to how to choose a healing practitioner. Here is that subpage of his website divine-heart.org, called "How to Pick a Healer."
In conclusion, please understand that this work is sacred to me. Perhaps it will be to you as well.